Friend group split on whether or not their 28-year-old bestie is being a diva for banning kids from her baby shower, one friend calls her out: 'My bf was not happy'

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  • Three women celebrating a baby shower, one of them looks surprised, one feels left out and the other seems happy to be receiving gifts.
  • My (28F) bestfriend (28F) is having her baby shower in a few weeks time. She just sent out invitations 2 weeks ago that read along the lines of 'come celebrate with 'Joel' and I as we welcome our new bundle of joy to the world'.
  • Joel is her partner. There is about 15 people invited on the Facebook event. Joel does not have Facebook so he wasn't on there.
  • Out of the 15 guests 3 of us have kids. One is 3, the other 2 and the other 9 months old and purely breastfed.
  • The baby shower has been stated to be extremely casual at her parents house in their large backyard.
  • Friends celebrating an intimate baby shower in a cozy, sunlit backyard.
  • Just a few nibbles and to sit around and chat for a few hours. One of the other girls messaged my bestfriend and just asked if partners and kids are invited to which my bestfriend replied no.
  • The other girl has not replied which led my bestfriend to say to me that 'people with kids need to learn that it's not all about them, it's my baby shower and I want people to celebrate me.
  • Nobody else' then went on to say 'I'm only having the baby shower for the gifts'.
  • I pulled her up and said that it's a bit ride to want people to come celebrate you and your baby and shower you in gifts and make comments about others kids.
  • She did not like that. I have the 9 month old and this caught me by surprise as when we talked about her shower months ago she made a passing comment that my child would be there so I just assumed she was invited.
  • I told my bestfriend that I would only be able to pop in for a bit as my baby won't take a bottle and is exclusively breastfed and the fact that its right in the middle of her nap (was planning to put her down at the shower in the house) my bestfriend was not happy.
  • I get that you might not want kids at your shower and that's TOTALLY OK! But i don't know, I just feel like it's 3 babies/kids and it's a super casual event - does it matter that much haha.
  • Can definitely see that I could be the AH but is it a bit stiff to say that other kids don't matter?
  • Especially when you're about to be a new mum?
  • A few things - sorry I spelt 'best friend' as one word. I've always said it like that but didn't know it would upset so many people and for people to say it's Al because of that lol - Secondly when I say my baby is exclusively breastfed- I mean that she primarily just drinks milk.
  • She will try food but mainly spits it out. Yes we have been to the dr and yes they say it's fine and to keep feeding her milk as that is their MAIN nutrition source up until the age of 12 months.
  • Food is just for exploration until then. Thirdly- I have left my baby for an hour maybe 2 hours tops and she stays with my husband however my husband works every second weekend and this falls on his working weekend.
  • I don't have family support and am not paying a stranger to look after my baby.
  • Her nap falls right when the baby shower starts and she is fed to sleep for naps.
  • I have in the past bought my daughter to my friends parents house and put her down for a nap there and I guess stupidly just assumed that's what I would do for the shower without double checking.
  • We try solids EVERY SINGLE DAY multiple times a day, she just isn't all that interested.

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